It is so often the case that during a divorce the only people who seem to win is the Divorce Lawyer that you have to pay to resolve the separation issues. Of course there are usually two divorce lawyers involved as your spouse has to have legal representation also and this is only fair as the last thing you want is to have is a situation where the settlement gets contested at a later date due to some legal irregularities.
Divorce is usually either a gradual separation where you end up having as good relationship with your ex-partner, even if it is a little strained, or you can end up with a really messy affair where you can’t stand to be associated with your once beloved partner. Now this can be one sided and not necessarily apply to both parties, but it should be avoided if possible as this is where the lawyers become the winners financially.
So how do you get a peaceful resolution in a divorce?
It does come down to good communication.
If the partners are arguing they are not able to look at the situation clearly and will find great difficulty reaching an agreed settlement. It is far better to sit and discuss what may be the best outcomes of different scenarios where there is the most benefit to all involved.
This is especially so when there are children involved and a good divorce lawyer will recognize this. The least disruption to the lives of the children really is an investment that will pay off in the long term when these living products of a marriage or partnership grow up to be young men and women that will become more like your friends rather than children. If you can see this then you will take the steps needed to resolve your divorce in a reasonable manner.
If you take the assets involved in the partnership and try and distribute them in a fair and even manner that benefits all involved you can achieve a good resolution. Sure it takes a little or even a lot of giving as well as taking but you do have to recognize that the assets will get divided and that you can do this by sitting down calmly and working through it all.
You can achieve this without getting either of the divorce lawyers involved at this stage. You will find that good lawyers are just like you and I who prefer to resolve problems amicably. If this is not the case find a lawyer that you can relate well with. Sure some of them like a good fight and they are experts at it but if you can present a division that is acceptable to both parties then they are required to respect your wishes.
A divorce lawyer who does not point out any unfairness or anomalies would be remiss so expect some scrutiny, but if you are both happy then you should be able to get a winning solution for your divorce that will not result in you paying a significant portion of your settlement to your divorce lawyer, or for that matter your spouses’ lawyer.